Unplugging to Plug In.

Well, by now I have done my part informing people about Kyle and Nicole requesting an unplugged wedding.  Oh, sure, when all the formalities are over it’s expected that people will take some pictures and they should, but during the ceremony, first dances and speeches, it is the bride and groom’s request that people leave the photographing up to the hired photographers.  Between flashes going off and people ending up basically photo bombing some special moments, this all makes sense to me.  But a much big factor is that when people are busy with their phones, they miss the moment.  I loved this little gem I found on Facebook yesterday which brings this point home NOT just for the wedding but for every day.  If we could all unplug a little more from our phones, we could all plug into the present a little more.  Let’s face it, when we engage in our phones while we are with other people, we aren’t giving either their due respect.  I certainly am as guilty of this as the next “guy,” and am reminding myself as I share this.


I have to share one more that I also found scrolling through my Facebook yesterday.   I have little patience for complainers, yet I know I can do my fair share of that, too, and that’s just ugly.  NO ONE like complaining.  I remember years ago when one of my very besties, Carole, was undergoing treatment for the big C.  I never heard her complain and she wisely shared with me that she had some really awesome friends helping her and spending time with her and if she complained and became a drag to be with, they wouldn’t want to anymore.   TODAY I am taking the challenge!  I have officially entered an unplugging from complaining zone.  My life is pretty damn good right now and I really want it to change, but I bet it will get even better if I can rise to the challenge.  How about you?


I will be at the gym this morning for 8:30 and 11:30 classes.  Then, it’s time to finish the final prepping for the wedding weekend.  Don’t be shocked if I show up for 11:30 class in flip-flops.  Once my feet are free of sneakers, my body and mind know it’s time to unplug from routine and plug into the present.

It’s ALL in the Attitude

I am a huge believer in practicing gratitude and I do feel that practicing is the correct word.  It’s easy to be grateful when things are going well.  Never do things always go well though and each of us has our struggles.  By practicing gratitude regularly, it becomes a way of life so that when things AREN’T going so well, we have already become really good at finding the best in a situation.  At the end of many of my classes we take a minute to put as many people, places, things, etc., on our silent gratitude list and many of my students have let me know how much this has helped their perspective.  If you are reading this on your computer, tablet or phone, you already have a ton to be grateful for.  Not just for the device, but more importantly for your eye sight, for the time to sit and be online, for the ability to read, a brain that understands, etc.,

I am often reminded of what I learned when watching that documentary Happy recently….More money just doesn’t equate to more happiness.  I found this one on Facebook this morning and thought it was worth a share….

Wishing you a day filled with the ability to find so much to be grateful for…

Now More than Ever….

"Peace Please" sign at the peace ral...

“Peace Please”  (Photo credit: jcolman)

“The time has come, I believe,  for each one of us to start thinking and acting on the basis of an identity rooted in the phrase “we human beings.”

–More wisdom for the Dalai Lama

Don’t Let The Good Book Fool You….


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It has been suggested that in order to keep happiness and peace in your heart, you step away from social media, like Facebook, for at least one day a week.  I don’t know why ONE day is enough, but I understand fully, the concept of stepping away because…

Generally, the photos people share on the good book, are the happiest times (thankfully).  As we scan thru  pictures, though we may be so happy to see them, undoubtedly we are sometimes finding ourselves thinking things like “wow she travels everywhere, or he has the nicest car(S), another of  their sons just became a doctor, she just got a promotion, they just put a pool in their backyard, so and so just bought another (fill in the ______) etc., etc.

Fact is, no matter how secure we are, getting on social media every day and seeing these events can make a person feel inadequate, for lack of a better word.  Even though we realize people don’t post the bad stuff, and we know everyone has their stuff, it still causes emotional conflict.  Let’s face it, no one comes on an updates their status with things like “my kids got arrested, my bank keeps calling and I can’t make my mortgage payment, my spouse is out drinking again, my kids never call, my daughter dropped out of school, etc., etc.  

Let me get this straight.  I am never wishing bad things on anyone, anywhere.  Nor do I want people to start posting negative depressing updates.  All I am suggesting is that emotionally, we can all use a break from checking in every day, several times a day, like it’s a job.  Social media is great and being connected to people we care about, seeing their joy and happiness, it’s all wonderful.  It does, however, have a downside and I think it is important we are all aware of it.

I also am certain that the pictures some people create don’t always tell an entire story.  Updating status and sharing pictures is just a piece of a big picture.  Don’t let what you see and read make you feel any less good about your REAL life story.  Also know that by stepping away from social media for one day out of the week has been proven to help boost happiness.  I think that is for all the reasons above.

So if you don’t see me blog some days, I am taking a break for me…and for you!  Enjoy your day and your weekend.


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